Becoming a Confident Mother


Friday night was the end of The Confident Mother Conference – I still have a lot to catch up on and a lot to blog but I’ll carry on working my way through the listening again and share my thoughts as appropriate. I was looking for a photo to sum up the conference and found this one which I thought that Sherry would approve of – it’s the finish of the conference but the start of the rest of the year.

So in the last session Sherry shared her wish to be able to wave a magic wand and make us all confident but appreciated that this isn’t really possible so instead gave us five (and a bonus) tips to help us become more confident.

  1. Get clarity / vision / knowing what you want – you can’t work towards a goal if you don’t know what it is
  2. Know what your skills and strengths are and understand your core values
  3. Look after yourself – take time to recharge batteries, eat well, exercise
  4. Push yourself out of the comfort zone – feel the fear and do it anyway
  5. Don’t try to be perfect – it’s impossible and sets yourself up for failure – forgive yourself for mistakes
  6. Keep a journal and monitor progress – celebrate your actions / success and wins

Most of all Sherry’s theme from the conference is to “Take Action”… so what actions am I taking?

  • I’m going to listen to the recordings I have on catch up
  • I’m going to keep blogging (and using it as a journal to keep up with my new year plans and making sure that we complete our  Things We Want to Do in 2016)
  • I’m going to make sure I use my ‘me time’ productively (but making sure that it also involves recharge time)
  • I’m going to keep reading Sherry’s blog and listening to her interviews

Picky Eating…

pizza-410319_1920So number one of my New Year Plans was to increasing our repertoire of family meals with the target of at least one new recipe a month… I’ll be honest our current repertoire isn’t particularly large and we are stuck in a bit of a rut / routine…

  • Monday is pasta bake (usually tomato and meatballs but sometimes cheesy tuna)
  • Tuesday is pizza (eaten in shifts around swimming and Cubs except for Miss Littlesheep who doesn’t like pizza and usually ends up with cheese on toast or omelette )
  • Wednesday / Thursday something like chicken with BBQ sauce / sausages / burgers with wedges / waffles / jacket potatoes or if we are being adventurous sweet & sour sauce and rice and some vegetables typically carrots, frozen peas or sweetcorn…
  • Friday is fish fingers, chips and beans (Miss Littlesheep’s favourite meal in the whole world)
  • Saturday and Sunday – similar to Wednesday / Thursday but chicken with gravy sits in there too…

I listened to the Confindent Mother interview (sorry I will stop babbling on about it soon promise) Solve picky eating and enjoy stress free mealtimes with your children – Mr Littlesheep came in half way through and asked why I was wasting my time as the children eat fine but you never know what you could learn do you? I think it’s more by luck than judgement that we don’t have any major picky eating… or maybe I am doing something right!

So confession time I’m not a foody, I don’t really like cooking and if I didn’t have to eat then I probably wouldn’t… I’m also probably the ‘picky eater’ when it comes to food in our house – I’m gluten and dairy intolerant (long story cut short – felt rubbish – did elimination diet – felt better but couldn’t be tested for coeliac disease because I was pregnant and now years later it seems pointless), I don’t like red meat – was vegetarian until I cut out dairy and panicked about sources of protein… If I can’t eat ‘the family meal’ else is eating above I have GF pasta / pesto or an omelette – obviously if I’m adapting meals for my likes / dislikes then I need to afford the children the same courtesy hence Little Miss not having pizza and sauce on her pasta and the boys not having various sauces / gravies on their meat…

So how do a get out of this rut?

What is your favourite, simplest, quick to prepare family meal? Probably vegetarian (but no dairy) and ideally gluten free but I can adapt…

I’m off to look at Mrs M’s Meal Planning Monday in search for inspiration and I will find something new to cook next week!

Bare Reality

So afterbarereality listening to the Confident Mother introductory session and setting myself the goal of listening to more of the feminine and wellness sessions I signed up and listened to Laura Dodsworth author of the book Bare Reality: 100 Women, Their Breasts, Their Stories. This wasn’t one of the sessions that I’d originally signed up to listen to as I’d stayed in my comfort zone and signed up to the sessions that were family and work based but having listened I’m glad I did as it was inspiring. In the project of completing this book Laura has shared (un-airbrushed) photographs and the stories about their breasts and their lives of  100 women. Laura shared how she got women from all backgrounds to take part – aged from 19 to 101, sized AAA to K, from a Buddhist nun to burlesque dancer – certainly something different.  I am definitely going to ask around and see if any of my friends in the breastfeeding world have a copy I can borrow and if not maybe I’ll put it on my wishlist as it sounds like it has some interesting stories in it.

Having listened to Sherry interviewing Laura I thought it would be worth sharing  the story of my boobs. I don’t think I’m brave enough to share photos of my boobs but I do think that they are quite fabulous… They are pretty normal on the grand scheme of boobs – they aren’t particularly big or particularly small, not overly pert or saggy and I pretty much took them for granted until I had my first baby and then they got ‘their story’ and became fabulous. My boobs are fabulous because they have fed, nourished and comforted my four babies (and an unknown number of special ones too as after baby two I expressed for the Milk Bank at Birmingham Women’s Hospital). The breastfeeding journey wasn’t always easy, some of them took a while to get the hang of it, we had lots of sleepless nights and wanting to feed at the most inconvenient moments but we did it. I was lucky enough not to have ever been on the receiving end of negative comments about feeding in public (or about feeding toddlers) which is how it should be.